I was at the gym tonight thinking of all the ways that I have felt guilty as a mom, and I wonder if it's just me...
1) My current dilemma is weaning my baby from breastfeeding. I will soon return to work, and I have decided to start weaning my little girl before I return. I went online for some advice on HOW to wean. When I searched "how to discontinue breastfeeding", what I found were articles that went on and on about the benefits of nursing and how it is best to nurse for two years. I understand the benefits. That's why I chose to nurse in the first place. And although I am emotional when I think of no longer breastfeeding, the decision has been made. I just need some advice on HOW!
2) I started by mentioning that I was at the gym tonight. I should point out that I am not an athlete or a gym-junkie. But I have been going to the gym since 4 weeks after my c-section out of pure pressure to look good. I am afraid to return to work still wearing my maternity clothes. I feel as though the other women at work will be looking at me and judging me based on how I look. I can hear it now..."So how much weight have you lost?"... Anybody have any advice???
3) My husband and I each commute over an hour from home to our offices. For this reason, we have decided to use the time of our 12-week maternity/paternity leave to find a new home closer to the office. However, I am nervous at the idea that it will be rough for my son. He absolutely adores his daycare provider and his daycare friends, and they all love him. I just worry that it's a lot of change for him at once...new sister, new house, new daycare... Any advice on how to make the transition easier for him?
4) Now that my son is almost 4 years old, I would like to enroll him in some organized activities, but I don't know which would be best. Soccer? Karate? Tennis? Can someone give me some advice on what things to consider? Cost? Schedule? Anything else?
Okay - so I think I have laid enough on you for one night. I should probably get some sleep. The little one will surely be waking up soon for a feeding.
I thank you in advance for any advice or thoughts you can share.
-Barbara-
2 comments:
No matter what you do, what decision you follow, I can assure you will always have that feeling that you are doing enough!
Babies have been breastfed since the dawn of time! I never heard one complain "geez, my Mom weaned me too soon!" LOL
The process will provide a certain amount of anxiety for your child. She will reach for you, squirm and maybe even cry.
She will learn from your strength and will quickly adapt to alternate forms of feeding. (Good idea to have Dad take over on feedings).
Enrollment in organized sports usually takes place at 5. Do a thorough check of the organization he will be participating in. Ask the parents that are there. Listen to the coaches "mission statement" ..it should resonate with encouragement and development with an idea how he will integrate sportsmanship and team spirit into his line up.
T-ball is a great introduction to sports and it's played 9 months of the year. Soccor is great but most parks only have programs that run Nov-Feb.
Good Luck..Don't worry...it does get better!
Peace..Marc :)
Wow - this is great! Thanks so much for the words of encouragement. And I will definitely consider T-Ball...a longer season is more appealing.
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